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Big YES and little no




The "holy yes" has the "holy no" for balance - and the "holy as-well-as" for completion.


It is intriguing for me to see how this simple triangle, forming part of the enneagram symbol, showing up as yin, yang and tai chi, holds the mystery of manifestation.


Whenever I find myself caught in an "either - or" situation this is what I remember: it's through all three that the energy flows, that life fully expresses itself.


Once I start being aware of the "yes" that is contained in a "no" - a shift happens.

And to focus on the big YES of life let's the little yeses and nos fall into place beautifully, gives space to as-well-as.


When you feel a "no" coming up in a situation and struggle with it - I invite you to check in with yourself: what you are you saying "yes" to?


For example, as I mother I frequently said "no's" to sweets or snacks just before lunch.

My "yes" was towards rhythm, attention to what is going on for my child, and the safety of reliability.


When you feel confronted by your partners "no" - what are they saying "yes" to?

We might ask our partner to come for a walk with us and they don't want to.

For one, they might say "yes" to staying in their own flow. Or they might respond to an unclarity in the energy between the two of you.

This offers the opportunity to check in more deeply with ourselves where we are at and what is in alignment for ourselves in this moment.


When your child refuses to come along - what are they saying "yes" to?

They might be immersed in their role play, not ready to move on yet.

It's a good reminder that they follow their own inner guidance and need some time to transition from one state to the next.


Mostly our "no" serves our authenticity and that is very precious after all!


Welcome to let yourself be surprised by the "yes" you find in the "no", embraced by "as-well-as" and the flow of life's unfolding through the totality of its expressions.


This offers you a much larger perspective, more spaciousness and relaxation.

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